Raise your hand if you’ve ever felt not talented enough to do something you’ve always wanted to do. You can’t see me, but my hand is raised. As the end of the year approaches (omg I can’t believe 2017 is almost over!), I’m looking back on some of the goals I set that I haven’t even touched yet. Nine times out of 10 the reason why I avoid certain goals I set for myself is because I actually don’t believe there’s a chance in hell I could ever accomplish them. And although this year has been an exciting one (finally leaving that office job), I still find myself surrounded by self-doubt. The truth is, though, I don’t need to email other blogger and ask them what their secret sauce is or read some article on the secret steps to success (hint: they aren’t any). What I really need to do is just stfu and get out of my own way.
I am the QUEEN of overthinking. You know those funny memes you see in your Facebook feed that say “Me when my friends tell me not to overthink something” and it’s like a scene from Spy Kids with a massive magnifying glass—that’s me. I’ve convinced myself of some pretty idiotic things all because I read into everything way too much. You name it—from career stuff to relationships, I’ve self-sabotaged it all.
So now that I’m incredibly aware of this giant flaw of mine (there are many), I’m doing what I can to be more self-aware. How am I doing this? Well, I’m starting by accepting compliments. For example, when someone says I did a good job, instead of interpreting it as “Good job, but someone else is still better than you.” I’m just going to say thank you and continue doing my best.
Surround yourself with supportive people
Life in general seems to be a little easier when you have supportive friends and family in your life. Whether you’re struggling professionally or personally, it’s nice to always know there’s people in your corner. No one ever really needs someone to say things like “You’re actually not very good at your career, maybe you should find another one.” Comments like that are necessary like .00005% of the time.
Network in your industry
This was a goal I set for myself at the beginning of 2017 that I feel like I actually did accomplish. I met so many new people this year and it’s helped me continue to grow in a ton of different wats. Mainly, though, the people I’ve met have made me feel more confident in myself because they’ve been so supportive. You never know where you’ll find another friend or work opportunity, so put yourself out there and talk to people (they’re not all bad)!
Find an outlet
This is something I’m still working on. I hate it when people ask me what my hobbies are because I’m not sure I have any? I have things I enjoy doing, but I’m not certain they’re hobbies. Anyway, if you don’t have a hobby (like me apparently), that’s totally ok! Finding an outlet can also mean having friends or family you can talk/vent to or just doing a brain dump. Either way, get out any negative energy that might be stuck inside, because you got shit to do! 😉
Anyone else ever find that their biggest road block is themselves? Tell me I’m not alone in the comments!