As I’ve gotten older I’ve learned how incredibly difficult it can be to maintain friendships. Even the ones I promised myself I would never let go of, somehow I always get too busy. As time goes on it just gets harder and harder to pick up the phone and chat or find a time to have dinner without it feeling like an inconvenience.
There are two distinct times when the distance between several friends and me was particularly noticeable. First, when I graduated high school, and second, when I graduated college. The herd seems to keep thinning the older I get, and that’s ok, but I don’t want it to be because I didn’t put forth enough effort.
Recently, I had a friend reach out to me who I hadn’t spoken to in a while and we ended up talking for more than an hour. It was so great to just set everything aside for a minute and hear about all the positive things happening in their life. It made me think, why couldn’t I be the one to pick up the phone and nurture a friendship I care about?
Here are a few reasons why your friendships are worth the effort.
You Need People In Your Life With Similar Interests
You’ve always had that one friend that just gets you instead of thinking you’re weird. They are the only other person you’ve ever met that loves dipping french fries in ice cream as much as you or was willing to watch every Harry Potter movie with you. Whatever your common ground is, it’s why you should always pick up the phone and see what they’re up to. Don’t be afraid of interrupting their day. Find out what they’re doing and set up a time for another movie marathon.
Fun Strolls Down Memory Lane
Even if you have moved on and gone your separate ways in life, everyone can always use a good stroll down memory lane. I know I have several friends that I don’t see very often, but when I do, we spend the entire time laughing because of all the memories we have together. After seeing these friends, I usually find myself wishing I still talked to them everyday. Life gets crazy and everyday is a lot, but if these people are true friends, they’ll appreciate the occasional get together as much as you do.
Maybe your best friend moved across the country, one state over or you just aren’t roommates for the first time in four years. For me, being out of college and no longer living with friends has definitely changed my relationships. It’s kind of like when you’re in high school and you become great friends with someone because you’re forced to be around them all day. When you live with someone, it’s the same thing. Maybe when you moved in with that person you were just ok friends, but now you cant imagine how you ever got through a break up or quit a job without them by your side. You need people in your life that can give you a shoulder to cry on or be honest with you when no one else will be.
When my friend I mentioned above, called me, I was so thankful they took the time to do it because unfortunately I had not. It reminded me not only how much I appreciate this person, but all my friends. Yes, there’s no doubt you have to prioritize and make time for friendships, but you never know when someone could use a laugh or even a bottle of wine. So, do it! Reach out, make the effort and be the one pick up the phone!
Have you ever felt like keeping your friendships gets harder the older you get? Tell me about it in the comments.